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The Words Children Hear Today Can Become Their Inner Voice Tomorrow

A hurried comment made while getting ready for school can disappear from an adult’s mind within minutes. For a child, the same words can linger much longer. Children are constantly collecting messages about who they are, what they are capable of, and how the people they love see them. That does not mean parents and teachers must speak perfectly every moment. Nobody does. It does mean that the language children hear repeatedly can influence the language they eventually use with themselves. Encouragement, patience, and realistic reassurance can slowly become part of a child’s inner voice, just as constant criticism can become difficult to forget. The Difference Between Correcting and Defining Children need correction. They need adults to tell them when behavior is inappropriate, when work needs improvement, or when a different choice should be made. The problem comes when correction begins to sound like a definition of the child. There is a big difference between saying, “You lef...
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The Faith & Redemption Angle

From the Darkest Four Years of His Life to the Presence of God: How One Man's Testimony Is Reaching Believers and Skeptics Alike Every so often, a book comes along that isn't trying to entertain you it's trying to reach you. Real-Life Testimony: How God Saved My Life From The Demons That Tried To Kill Me , the debut book from author Edger Gunther, is exactly that kind of book. It is, at its heart, a story about what happens when a person is stripped of every human resource pastors who turn him away, a church contact who never returns his calls, a sister who has to step back because the attacks against him start following her too and is left with nothing but the choice to keep calling out to God or give up. Gunther chose to keep calling out. That choice is the real subject of this book. Raised in a Pentecostal church in San Francisco, Gunther was no stranger to faith when his four-year ordeal began. But nothing in his upbringing prepared him for what he describes: years ...
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When “I Can’t” Becomes “I’ll Try”: Helping Children Build a Growth Mindset

Every parent has heard the words “I can’t do it” at some point. They might come during homework, while learning to ride a bike, before trying a new sport, or after something doesn’t go right the first time. Sometimes those words are accompanied by frustration. Other times, they come quietly when a child has already decided that giving up feels safer than trying again. For adults, the solution may seem simple: encourage them to keep going. For children, however, that moment can feel much bigger. They are not only struggling with the task in front of them. They may also be wondering whether struggling means they simply aren't good at it. Helping children replace “I can’t” with “I’ll try” is not about convincing them that everything will be easy. It is about teaching them that they can learn, improve, and grow even when something feels difficult at first. Children Need to Know That Struggling Is Normal Children often see the finished result without seeing the work that came be...
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He Saw His Soulmate's Face in a Vision as a Boy and Spent His Whole Youth Looking — Shivan, From His Side

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  The Deal Series, Book 4 · by Desiree Sandz · Told through the celestial's chapters · 18+ Imagine being shown, once, as a child, the face of the person you're meant to love. And then being handed a galaxy and told: go find him. That's Shivan. And Desiree Sandz writes his chapters with a completely different music than Mikel's where Mikel is all noise and deflection, Shivan is quiet, deliberate, and steady as gravity. Reading the two POVs back to back is like listening to a drum kit and a cello somehow play the same song. Patience as a character trait Shivan is kind-hearted in a way that's easy to underestimate. He isn't naive he's just decided, deliberately, that gentleness is the thing worth being. He waits. He observes. He offers rather than demands. In a universe full of warriors measuring each other in the arena, a man whose entire power is consistency stands out enormously. And the object of a lifetime of searching turns out to be… Mikel. Loud, defle...
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A Boy Under a Bed Became the Best Doctor in the Galaxy — Dr. Ezone and the Cost of Getting Out

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  The Deal Series, Book 3 · by Desiree Sandz · Told through the hero's chapters · 18+ The first thing you learn about Ezone is not that he's brilliant. It's that at thirty years old a child by his species' reckoning he was hiding under a bed while his father, a decorated warrior with iron hands and a war he never came home from, took the house apart around him. That opening chapter is a gut-punch, and it recontextualizes everything the man becomes.  Desiree Sandz  doesn't write his darkness as an aesthetic. She shows you exactly where it was manufactured. The making of a doctor Here's the arc that makes his POV compelling for readers who normally skip the romance shelf entirely: Ezone chose healing. A boy raised by fists picked up medicine instead. He walked into his first med bay, got called "Doctor" for the first time, and you can feel the whole architecture of his identity click into place in that one sentence. He becomes exceptional the doc...
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The Man Who Gives the Orders Has Exactly One Weakness — Dashvagashi From the High Councilman's Chair

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The Deal Series, Book 2 · by Desiree Sandz · Told through the hero's chapters · 18+ Power fantasies are easy. Power  responsibility  fantasies are hard.  Dashvagashi  is the second kind, and that's what makes it one of the strongest entries in  The Deal series . He is High Councilman. He sits at the top of a hierarchy that spans planets, colonies and battle stations. When intercepted slave ships turn up carrying humans nobody has files on, it's his call where they go. When two councilmen nearly kill each other over an assignment, he's the one who shuts it down calmly, over comms, in a voice more frightening than any shouting. He never raises it. He doesn't have to. Command written properly Sandz clearly enjoys writing this man, and it shows. His chapters are all quiet authority and dry internal commentary. He walks into a village, clocks a human boy in a crowd, and within four sentences has reorganized his entire day around it. He kneels down to a scared...
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He Had a Career, a Rank, and a Plan. Then Earth Happened. — Dovanik Read From the Warrior's Side

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  The Deal Series, Book 1 · by Desiree Sandz · Told from the alien hero's chapters · 18+ Everyone talks about  alien romance  like it's a genre for one kind of reader. Respectfully: no. Flip  Dovanik  around and read it through his chapters and you've basically got a military sci-fi novel about a decorated fighter having the worst possible identity crisis at the worst possible time he just happens to be having it about a woman. Dovanik is a Runner. Battleship fighter. Competitive, credentialed, ranked. His whole life is a ladder and he's been climbing it since he was old enough to hold a weapon. His father was like this. His father's father was like this. Nobody in his bloodline has ever paused to ask whether the ladder goes anywhere good you just climb it, you win, you don't smile about it, and you die respected. The arena scenes are genuinely great Let's give credit where it's due: Sandz writes competition well. The Runner trials, the team dril...
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